Why Christian BDSM?

Many kinky believers find that BDSM is fully compatible with a healthy, monogamous Christian marriage. BDSM provides a helpful framework for communication and safe, consensual exploration.

BDSM is not recommended for all Christians, but safe and responsible BDSM has the potential to enhance intimacy and strengthen marriages. These three core values are essential: Consent, Communication, and Compassion.

Thinking Critically

Unsure why any Christian would engage in BDSM? Historical Christianity provides a framework for seeing some aspects of BDSM from a different perspective. The “Other Resources” page includes helpful links to secular How-To guides.

Scripture

Does the Bible have anything to say about BDSM? How about sexual immorality within marriage?

Bondage

From fuzzy handcuffs to chains and rope, where exactly should married Christian couples draw the line?

Discipline

How does the asceticism and self-flagellation of historical clerics compare to discipline in BDSM?

Masochism

C.S. Lewis described pain as God’s “megaphone.” When can painful experiences be positive?

Dominance & Submission

Many roles are possible in “power exchange” relationships, including Dom/sub and Master/slave.

Key Topics

Many helpful books, blogs, and educational videos have been produced by the secular BDSM community.

Testimonials from Kinky Christians

Share Your Experience

For Christians who worry that their own kinky desires are sinful, it helps to hear that others have successfully found ways to engage in BDSM as Christians. Share a little bit about your story and your perspective. Some responses will be posted publicly.

Do You Disagree?

Feel free to share your thoughts and objections, but please include scriptural references (or external resources) to support your claim.

Include your email if you’re open to follow-up questions. Examples of the strongest arguments may be shared on this website. Thank you for taking the time to engage with an open mind.

Please enter your email, so we can follow up with you.
Starting a newsletter is still on the to-do list, but it will eventually summarize blog posts and other updates to the website.
Approximate Region
Baptist, Evangelical, Catholic, etc