Why Christian BDSM?

“Our faith has been become the cornerstone of our BDSM marriage. We started our journey long before 50 Shades made it a little more mainstream. For 23 years we have enjoyed varying degrees of of BDSM based on what was possible and healthy at the time, given our family dynamic. We are not interested in anything that violates our Christian beliefs. We put Christ first in our monogamous, porn free Master/slave marriage. If it’s not something we can talk to God about, it’s not something we feel we should be doing. I’ve prayed about our choices for years. I believe He has kept us on the right path at the right time, all the time!”

“I am a strong woman w/ a stubborn and strong personality, and often women like me are just looking for and wanting a stronger man that’s why we may choose this lifestyle soft core bdsm – I don’t need a man I was marred 28 years and recently divorced. I found someone perfect for me and we are in love. I didn’t know he was into kink until it was too late I already fell for him.”

“I told my Dom the first time we played, when I took off my clergy collar, that my primary submission was and would always be to God. I have struggled with the very few acts of submission he has asked for, at least at the beginning, but most have gradually become fulfilling to me.
As a priest, my life is built around service. There is no question I have sometimes given more than I should have. As a result, service to my Dom can feel either familiar and good, or like further exploitation. It’s certainly highlighted my discernment about what is Godly service or even sacrifice that I’m called to, and what is not.”

I’ve been married for 15 years and have had 4 children. I have been chronically and severely ill until a recent hysterectomy/ mass excision. With healing I’ve found peace in submission and soft/mild bdsm. After years of pain I am free to feel in a different way. A way practiced in a loving marriage with a believing husband. I feel blessed and grateful for healing and freedom to love my husband now. I believe that acts of any consenting nature that are kept between a husband and wife only and edify the marriage are permissible…and therefore the marriage bed undefiled.