Published in 2021, “The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended” started with a survey of 22,000 Christian women. Co-authors Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky do a great job of breaking down the lasting effects of purity culture and the abuse that’s possible […]
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Written rules can help define boundaries within a D/s relationship. But how many rules do you need? And what topics should the rules cover? Back in the 1990s, a controversial list circulated around the kink community. “128 rules for the female slave” was written by Johnathan Kay (also known as Master_Flog and formerly LionMaster). Unsurprisingly,
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Is your spouse asking you to do things that feel wrong? Some parts of BDSM sound pretty weird and even frightening. You shouldn’t feel pressured to participate in (or condone) fetishes that make you uncomfortable. Real BDSM begins with a solid foundation of Consent, Communication, and Compassion—and consent must be freely given, not wheedled out.
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Short Answer: You Don’t. Roles like “Dominant” and “spiritual leader” don’t provide unlimited power. Regardless of whether or not you’re active in BDSM, a husband doesn’t “make” his wife do anything in the sense of forcing her against her will. Each couple enjoys different levels and types of power exchange, but your wife’s submission always
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How should you start the conversation with your spouse? Maybe you’ve only recently discovered your kinky side. Or maybe you’ve been ashamed of your fantasies since adolescence or earlier. However long you’ve been kinky, concealing your ongoing desires can weaken the sense of intimacy within your marriage. At the same time, “coming out” to your
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Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) shares a lot in common with BDSM Discipline (and secular Domestic Discipline), but the differences also matter. For starters, CDD usually works to reflect Biblical gender roles. The vast majority of wives in CDD submit to their husbands because of verses like Ephesians 5:22-24. On the other hand, BDSM aligns with
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Many YouTubers have publicly shared their perspectives on kink and BDSM. A few of them are publicly Christian. You can find all kinds of perspectives on anonymous forums, but these informal videos are particularly relatable. These three laypersons approach the complicated subject of BDSM with humility. It’s a refreshing change, compared to some of the
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To their credit, GotQuestions.org covers an incredibly wide range of topics. In such a huge collection of brief answers, a few prejudiced mistakes seem inevitable. There’s a surprising contrast in the ways they discuss sadism and torture. For the definition of “sadism,” they do a good job of highlighting the ambiguity. The word gets used
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At first, the site “Got Questions” gives a simple answer to the title question, “What does the Bible say about BDSM?” Then it drifts quickly into opinion and personal judgment.
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“Real Truth. Real Quick.” presents a series of 5-ish Principles in their argument against BDSM. Are these Principles supported with scripture?
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